My Friend's Secret Part II

Temptation is very strong opponent to overpower, yet my friend passed its first test.

This time around, temptation strikes back and hoping to bring down my friend.

As I'm encoding this article, my friend has a new job. New office, new field of work, new workmates new ambiance, everything is new. My friend is a "just go with the flow" type of person, he's used in adjusting in his environment, easily. I remembered when he was a new comer in our basketball club, it was his first day with us and in the same day he easily gathered new friends and mingled with us like a veteran in a group. That's how easy he blends in an environment. 

He is now happy with his family and coping up with the lapses he had done in the past and doing everything to make his family feel his love. But temptation strikes for the second time around, he has an office mate that has strikingly beautiful face (according to him) but this time this girl he's talking about is a spoiled-brat-but-cute type of girl. 

As of now, my friend is fighting with temptation and resisting the beauty that his workmate brings. 

"Fight it off!" I told him during our conversation.

"I'm fighting it" he replied.

"Good!" I said.

"I'm fighting it,but I'm contented looking at her beautiful face..hehehe" he said with a joke.

I told him " You better get that off! before it's too late!"

"I will Godfather" he jokingly told me.

I know that my friend loves his family so much. I know that he will fight temptation and resist whatever it is that is needed to be resisted. But we know what the devil can do, he'll do everything to bring down happiness in this world.

My Friend's Secret

One day, me and my friend had a drinking session. We started it with a simple talks and jokes.

As he got drunk, not me, I'm a high-dosage type of drinker. 

            He asked me to listen to him, and I said "sure!, what is it?" then he replied  

            "I've got a secret to tell ya".

          I replied "don't tell me your gay!" then we both laugh. 

               "Your crazy!" he said. 

Then  he got serious, then he started his story, perhaps confession.

My friend had an affair with his ex-workmate. 

First, they were good friends, sharing ideas, and laughter. According to him, the girl was very beautiful, white, long hair, but what he like  most was the girls attitude because she was the type of girl that is very easy to go along with. Though they were wealthy (but not a millionaire type) she's very simple. Sadly, the girl was married. She has kids but her figure doesn't look like one.

The friendship continues and it evolves. 

There was one occasion that my friend would have attended (if this girl did not came into his life) but he chooses not to and instead, he went to worked because he knew that the girl will be working  that day and that day was Saturday, meaning, it's overtime. Just the two of them in their workplace and that's the only time that my friend was waiting, so that he can confess his feelings toward a married woman. To his surprised, during their conversation, the girl also confessed that she also likes my friend. Boom!This is the beginning of the sin that my friend never thought of happening and involving him.

Though they never committed a serious relationship during that time, their friendship continues and as time passed, they never realized that there friendship went deeper to mutual understanding to lovers. They keep on denying to themselves what they have for each other but the feelings haunts them. Without them knowing it there something is happening. 

              "I'll just play along with this feeling" my friend told himself.

             "I do not love him!, he is just my friend. All of this is just for our friendship!" The married girl wanted to believe.

Unfortunately, they were wrong. Their feelings' went further until both of them committed sins that wasn't supposed to happen. They slept together. The married girl always visits my friend every Saturday, and if she has free time after work she will drop by to my friends house to spend time with him.

Their denial relationship went to a serious one. Serious enough that the married woman would think of leaving her family just to be with my friend. My friend was serious enough too that he will leave everything for the girl. 

The married woman wanted a commitment from my from my friend and so is my friend. They were playing tug-of-war but both of them held on, no one wanted to let go. Until conscience strike, the married woman cries to stopped this nonsense. 

          "Let's stop this!, If you want to continue our relationship, then let it be but as friend." the woman said.

But my friend was foolishly in-love with the married woman and said 

         "Why are you doing this to me?, Why you've let me love you this far? in the end leaving me!".

        "You've promised!" my friend added. Referring to the promises they've made when they were together spending happy moments. They'd promised to each other that nobody will let go, but it's impossible.

        "I love you!but were not meant for each other!I am a committed woman! and so you are!" the woman said.

Yes, you read it right that my friend is also committed as a Father to his son, and a Husband to his partner. Though unwed, but they're together with constant communication and living together. But, more often than not, problems and quarrels always strikes in their relationship.

         "If only you have arrived in my life earlier!I would have chosen you as my husband!" the woman added.

             Though, flattered but my friend outburst and asked. "Then come with me!".

            The woman stopped and said " I loved to but it can't be. I love you!but we must stop. All of this are wrong. We could still continue our friendship if you we want to. I want it that way."

            "The situation you wanted will not be easy. It'll just hurt me time to time." my friend replied.

           "If you want this to stop, then let us stop this. You've wasted my sacrifices and you've our promises, you've wasted everything!" He added.

Then their relationship gone cold. 

The two of them decided to be with each others family, cover up for their mistakes and spend the rest of their life with their respective family.

Though their are times that my friend is still thinking about that married woman especially their happy moments, he said that he is happy now. 

A mistake is a mistake, the only time we can do is forgetting it, not doing it again and covering it up by making up for those who got hurt during those sin-filled days. Lastly, asked forgiveness which is the only thing that my friend have not done yet. Though, through action and deeds he have already shown it. 

At present my friend is living with his family and happy.

To be continue...

MY DAY

As I woke up this morning, everything was okay. 

As I prepared for work my wife and I had a disagreement for something.

I didn't had my breakfast or even drink a coffee that was prepared by my wife when we were okay earlier this morning.

I leave home without saying goodbye or doing my usual routine of kissing and hugging with my son and wife as I leave for work.

As I arrived in the office, ambiance was same as usual.

Sat on my chair and turned on my laptop and surf for news.

As of 10:12am, office is okay. Jokes and laughter filled the reception area.

My workmate called a food chain and ordered foods for lunch as a treat because she received her monetary commission.

Another workmate of mine (she's on leave) drop by the office when she heard that a comrade of ours is treating us.

"So far, so good" That's the right phrase to describe whats happening in our workplace right now. the question is, what will happen next with me and my wife's quarrel?

Even though I'm behind my sales target and have some issue with my former colleagues. Considering all of it everthing so far, so good.

This afternoon, at 1 pm. I'll be going to a mall to attend World Food Expo, hunting for clients that will patch up my sales negativity.

Hopefully, everything will be right and okay not just today but everyday of my entire life.

Leaders' Characteristics

Everyone of us belongs to a group. In every group, has a leader and every leader has a different characteristics towards his/her followers or members.

Simple Type – This type of leader is the modest of all. Leader in this type is more of a listener. She/he will listen to his comrades before deciding. But this leader, more often than not is an achiever, and very competitive. This leader will top everybody without everybody noticing that she/he is leading in any race there would be.

Negative Part: This leader lets her/his pen does the damage.

Military type – This type of leader is the most straight-forward one. If you have done something wrong, expect a disciplinary action whether it is “black on white” or verbally implemented. This leader has a strong personality, always abides “The Law” and observes good conduct. The “pwede nay an!” or “bahala na!” attitude is a big NO-NO! with this leader. This leader always seeks for perfection and the word “flaws” never existed in this leader’s vocabulary.

Negative Part: Never think of people that surround him while reprimanding subordinates.

Career – Oriented – This is a one man show type of leader. She/he will do or get everything that may get her/him up to the top. Trainings, seminars, name it this leader has it.

Negative Part: Never thinks of his/her subordinates career chances.

Force of Power – Now, this is challenging, this type is the POWER, and RULER to be exaggerated the GOD of the clan. No one dares to challenge this leader, try challenging this leader and you’ll get what you ask for. This leader is “the always right” type. This never listens to minions’ suggestions or ideas, only this leader is allowed in every right there would be in a group.

Negative Part: The only attack coming from this leader’s gofers is from behind.

Silent/Easy-going type – Here is the most dangerous type of all leaders. Lady Gaga’s Poker Face song is these leaders favourite song. Leaders in this bracket are dangerous considering that they are also the most observant of all. Silent type may seem one but actually they’re not. There so much activity in their as you speak infront of them, they’re reading your intentions and even gestures. You they’re okay or even liked you as you turn around but think again you’re wrong. A day after your conversation, rumors will roam around according to the silent-type leader’s perception that the latter relayed to co-leaders. May be your asking, how about the easy-going type? Still they are not safe. That could be there tactics to know who you really are. It is one way of evaluating their followers.

Negative Part: They’re unpredictable that’s why their followers’ loyalty is questionable.

Where does your leader belong?...how about your boss?

Share your story.

Job Transformation: Stressful!

I have been to several types of jobs. Most of them are physical and skill-involved type na work (di naman umabot sa pagiging karagador--no offense sa mga may trabahong ganito). Example are my works in a printing press where I worked as a Visual Artist, another instance was my work in a mall where I served as a Visual Merchandiser and for two-years and three months I have worked in environmental laboratory as Environmental Specialist (this suited my pursued profession, Environmental Engineer). As Environmental Specialist, I gather different types of data and samples needed for a computation that is connected in identifying if a company or certain factory's environmental compliance according to government's regulation  is active (kala nyo stressful na 'to? think again!). 

At present, I am still working with the same company. But with a different task, I am now a Technical Sales Specialist. From Technically-involved task to Marketing, and take note, I have never experienced such field in my entire life. Not even close.

How was it? one word. Stressful!. I'm turning 3..months old now in this type of job. I've never experience this type of stress in my work-life. Finding clients or customers that will hire our technical and analytical services is not easy. Especially if your looking for new clients and your accounts are not yet established. 

I missed my old job, together with my workmates in some part of Luzon where I was assigned during Team Leadership days. As part of the marketing department, men!this task is not easy, this is stressful and pressure-packed type of job. Getting the Cota's is just a part of it, not to mention the Boss' demands and wants!.

Challenge lang 'to! Kaya to! ika nga e..Patience is a virtue!..I'll give "Patience" a chance..let's say for a year or two. Within that range, I'll be summing this all up and decision making will follow.

Leave (find another field type of job e.g. Police Officer perhaps..) or

Stay (this depends on the commissioning..hehehe).

Let us wait for the answer.

A WATCHER'S VIEW: PACQUIAO VS BRADLEY

In general:

Yesterday was a day for upset. Timothy Bradley defeated the 8-time world champion of the world and truly the “People’s Champ” Emmanuel “Manny” Pacquiao. But with the help of the “three blind mice”, Bradley dethroned the champion in a split-decision.

The Pacquiao-Bradley fight was considered as the biggest robbery ever happened in sports history. Pacquiao clearly won the fight (should have) Bradley was hurt early in the fight though he had his moments but for the many (including me) it is not enough to announce Bradley as “The NEW!” WBO Welterweight Champion of the World. Not even close. I’ve watched the fight and I scored the fight 8-4 in favor of the Pacman.

The fight was truly “disgraceful”, “unfathomable” and “robbery” as many claims and they are right. One of the three judges defended what he scored during the fight. Yet, his explanation was unacceptable, he said that Manny wins the early rounds but faded towards the late rounds and Bradley connected more compared to Pacman. Unacceptable, because the Compubox stats are opposing that statement showing figures way ahead of that of Bradley favouring Pacquiao. Including “Jabs” which Bradley is bragging of and thinking that his jabs (while backing or retreating against Pacquiao) made a difference therefore making him the winner.

Boxing is dead.  Skills, techniques, power, all of that is nothing compared to money. “The strongest man there is” in boxing is dead.  What really matters now is money, the bets.

I personally belief, that all of this was already “FIXED”. The only way Pacquiao will win that fight was to knockout Bradley, cold, like what he did to Hatton. I believe that Bradley already knew what the result will be if he reaches round twelve and just jabbing around. He was so confident because two weeks before the fight he already made a poster for their rematch. Something fishy is going on in the sport of boxing. As long there will be no mitigating measures about this rotting system in the sport, boxing will never be the same again. Boxing will be legitimately dead (Which for me is already is).

Message for PACQUIAO:

If a rematch is on the card and settled, knock Bradley out cold. Don’t leave “the three blind mice” scoring system outscored you again. After all, they are blind, blinded by money.

Message for BRADLEY:

If you are truly a man and worthy to be called a Champion, return the belt or vacant that championship belt or perhaps volunteer to call that bout a no contest. Because even you yourself, knows that you didn’t won the fight. You were clearly running away and avoiding to be hurt as what you’ve tasted in the early rounds. You’ve also said after the fight that you have tried everything but you can’t beat the man (Pacquiao).

 Being a Champion, is not just for your pleasure, it is for everybody. That’s why with your controversial victory over “The People’s Champ” you’ll never get the respect of the people as a champion. You will only get there criticisms and doubts. The belt you have now is a belt of a cheater, maybe not by you, but thru the judges or maybe the system itself. Bottom line, return what is not yours and you know what it is.

Message for NSCC:

Screen well your judges. Don’t wait that there will be no big fights or sports events that will be held in your state because of your “bet-based” scoring/judging system.

Expelled those three blind mice, especially Ford.

Message for WBO, etc.:

Change the system and perhaps try “the last man standing rule”. With the current system, boxers are just satisfied with the jab and out, jab and out to gain points no matter how boring it is. I call it “Coward-boxing system”. If you can’t do the last man standing rule, then just try to fix the scoring system cause it’s killing the sports.

Lastly, for the boxing fans all around the world you know who really won the fight and it ain’t TIMOTHY BRADLEY” period.

FACEBOOK and MISINTERPRETATION

In our present generation, technologies gave us assistance in our everyday work and helps relationship build and strengthen. For instance, the invention of cellular phone or commonly known as “cellphone”. But perhaps, the greatest discovery of all is the World Wide Web, also known as the internet. This introduced sites like Google, Yahoo and Facebook.

Facebook is a social network type of website, which is the most popular today. So popular that millions signed in for an account and eventually became part of their everyday routine, but for some, addiction.  In fact, medical sector consider FB addiction a disorder. This routine mentioned earlier involves updating status, sharing ideas, playing games such as Tetris, and more.

                Some find Facebook beneficial, because they can view or even know the status of their respective friends or relatives, regardless the distance. Through Facebook, distance is no longer a factor, sharing thoughts even far away from a relationship is a breeze.

But are we aware of its negative effects?

Facebook, truly can defy distance and build relationship stronger, but it has also a contradict effect.

Example of this are misunderstood comments, wall posts, ideas and the likes. The output of your idea can be misread and misinterpretation occurs, because words don’t show feelings.  Especially when it comes to jokes, most of the time jokes are double meaning, if you put it in words some readers will consider or think of it as grin or plain joke.  One thing, word also does not show situations. It can’t be assumed that the situation or imagination when you are reading a wall post or status is actually the same with the profile owner when she/he keyed that post or idea.

These examples are just few of possible negative effects of FB. Imagine this misinterpretation, misunderstanding (whatever you call it) happens to you and a person which you are in a relationship with is the one who misread your post or comment, worst is, all who is in your friends’ list misunderstood all of your comments and hated, cursed you. Disaster! Right?...Can you defend yourself? Can you take it back? The answer is a big “NO-NO”. Because people who are viewing and reading your comments only read the words you typed and think /judges base on those words. Intelligent readers read written ideas or comments “between the lines” and not the lines itself. Unfortunately, intelligent readers rarely exist.

Through this, trusts and relationships will be affected and eventually vanish. Like?

Poke yourself and think again, Facebook or conventional type of communication with friends?

Yes, indeed, “Facebook is viral”. The interpretation is up to you.   

Who am I?...a victim of misinterpreted posts, friends vanished.

My solution?...deactivated FB account, I’m not urging you to do the same. But again, it’s up to you on how to interpret this article of mine.

ENVIED FATE

Envy, jealousy, or whatever you call it, I’m experiencing it now.

I’m working right now, paper works, as I’ve felt my limit of exhaustion. I decided to open Google, put in the site “facebook.com” on the search engine, signed in and read the posts on my wall. I have noticed that an acquaintance during college days updated her status. Thanking God for a safe trip and arrival to its new home, abroad, specifically Australia.

Best part is, as I viewed her profile, I saw photos of her together with her husband and daughter. As you are reading this you may think that I have a romantic feeling for the lady I’m talking about. No. I don’t have any.

I am sharing this so that I can express my feeling of jealousy towards my acquaintance’s lucky fate. Why lucky? There are numbers of our fellowmen going or aiming abroad (count me in) for money, work and the likes, but in return, leaving their families behind in this politically-ruined country. But for my college confrère, she went abroad without leaving someone. She and her family went abroad and there they can pursue abundant life together.

I’m a family man where am I? - - - - - here, working with peso-value money.

She’s a family woman where is she? --- there, receiving dollars.

I’m working, financially where am I?----nothing, borrowing prone.

She’s not yet working there, where is she financially?—abundant, cause her husband is working                           there.No need for her to work.

So many questions to ask, so many comparisons to think off, yet there’s nothing I can do. Because of two factors called MONEY and CONNECTIONS.

If you have those, going abroad or staying here in our corrupt-poisoned country will be just fine. Unfortunately, I don’t have those mentioned factors. Is this bad luck or unfortunate fate?...well, funny thing is I don’t have any choice but to live with it and irony is I have to hope for luck itself. Hopefully, it will be “good luck” this time.